Mahalo Mondays #22: What is love?, commitment, Mariah Carey
Mahalo Mondays is a newsletter on the most interesting I’ve learned or found over that week. It’ll range from articles, tips, videos, hacks, and other fascinating things that would broaden your perspective.
Mahalo means many things in Hawaiian (expressing gratitude), but for me, it’s a way to show appreciation and love to those that I’ve learned from. So I want to showcase their work and share it with all of you.
As with the case of Valentine’s every year, it got me thinking about love and what it means to me. My answer has been love is that blissful moment you feel whenever someone is genuinely happy. I’ve always felt best whenever someone else, especially people I care about, are happy. If I could help them get to their goal or accomplish a feat, there’d be no better feeling.
I’d like to make an addendum to that definition. While it’s not wrong to help people reach their goals, love should be to have that euphoric feeling regardless of whether you helped them or not. In fact, I’d argued I’m happier whenever someone does it through their own volition and power.
When someone comes to you for help and if you can convince them to do it on their own instead of doing it for them, that to me is love. To show someone that they can achieve it with their own strength is incomparable to doing it for them.
I’ve recently celebrated 5 years with my partner and it got me thinking about commitment in other aspects of my life. I noticed 2 important details about commitment: you can only commit to so many things in life and the most worthwhile things require a long-term commitment.
You can’t do everything and expect to be great at it. As you get older, you’ll naturally gravitate to things that you enjoy. In many ways, I believe that’s the higher power’s way of letting you know you should pursue these interests more seriously. I have found that I only like a few things in life: investing, writing, working out, building relationships, and martial arts to name a few. To more time I spend in these areas and maximize my skills in these areas, the happier I am.
I would have never known such joy if I didn’t take the time and effort to dive in these areas. At first, I didn’t enjoy it and it took lots of struggle until I found happiness in doing them. If you don’t make the leap, you’ll never know if you like it or not.
Sometimes you find out that it’s not what you like, but at least now you know what to avoid, and that’s a wonderful life lesson.
A case for top singer ever
Mariah Carey’s live vocals are incredible, especially when she was in her prime around the early 1990s to early 2000s. The amount of control and the sheer power she has easily placed her as one of the top, if not the top singer ever (my opinion of course).
Listen to her vocal run towards the end of this video. Incredible.
Until next week,